Couples therapy is a space to slow down, deepen understanding, and create a more conscious way of being together. It offers partners an opportunity to move beyond reactive patterns, to see one another more clearly, and to build a relationship grounded in maturity, regard, and emotional truth.

My work with couples is psychodynamic, relational, and analytically informed, and attends to the unconscious life of the relational system. I also draw on Gottman-informed practices to support communication, strengthen relational steadiness, and cultivate the art of companionship. The aim is not perfection, but a more generative and authentic way of being together. Otherness becomes an enhancer instead of something to change or defend against.

To that end, I often help my clients slow down high-intensity dynamics and move out of blame and defense-offense cycles. Pacing the dialogue allows for greater clarity, perspective-taking, and more thoughtful, non-violent communication. In a high-conflict environment, often, one partner is no longer encountered as they are, but as a stand-in for someone (often a parent) from the past. Together, we begin to disentangle these layers and create more room for reality and choice.

Very often, the qualities we cannot bear in ourselves are the ones we most urgently experience in the person we love. The partner becomes the messenger, the mirror, or the site of an old wound. Noticing and naming these misplaced aspects of ourselves moves everyone toward integration and maturation.

In intimacy and sex, I work with couples to explore needs, fantasies, desire, compatibility, pleasure, and play - creating space for explorations that are often difficult to begin elsewhere.

I also support couples navigating the seismic shift that comes with becoming parents. Parenthood can distress identity, time, erotic life, and partnership. Alongside deeper inner work, I offer practical support around restructuring time, reclaiming connection, and adjusting to the demands of family life, including parent-child conflict and sibling rivalry. I am trained in RIE and am informed by my own experience as a mother.